Building Resilience in them
The common roadblocks
Throughout our lives, we have learned a variety of ways to help children as well as adults when they have strong feelings, thoughts or problems. We want to be helpful, yet many of our responses actually make it more difficult for the person to express themself, make a decision or solve a problem.
Listed here are twelve of the more frequent “helping responses” which can become “Roadblocks” to communication. When you read this list, you may feel a little overwhelmed because so many of your regular ways of talking are now called roadblocks.
Something to know about “Roadblocks”.
- You are not a “bad” parent because you use roadblocks. You are doing what you have been taught to do to help others.
P.E.T. will provide you with more effective alternatives to begin using instead of these common roadblocks.
By: Dr. Thomas Gordon (excerpted from the P.E.T. Participant Workbook, 2017 edition)
ADVISING, GIVING SOLUTIONS
PERSUADING WITH LOGIC, ARGUING
JUDGING, CRITICISING, BLAMING
PROBING AND QUESTIONING
DIVERTING, SARCASM, WITHDRAWAL
” In the P.E.T course we get to learn the skills and communication tools that replace these roadblocks and clear a beautiful path for your child to come up with their own solutions and feel empowered by solving issues without your direct input”